Have you found your cheerleaders yet?
Do you know where to look?
Maybe you’ve found more gloom-leaders than cheerleaders?
You know the ones I’m talking about. They can’t seem to think of anything good to say, and they can’t seem to keep their depressing opinions to themselves either.
When you tell them about something you’re doing, and why you’re excited about it, they point out all the things that might not work. All the things that could go wrong.
Or here’s one that just happened to me yesterday.
I shared a website I’m working on, with a relative. It’s for my primary business, and I’m pretty excited about it.
This relative knows I’ve been in network marketing for awhile, and this is my only ‘work’ focus.
It was interesting to me that she acted surprised.
She was surprised that I’m putting a lot of time and effort into my business.
Why some people are surprised that we’d actually put time and effort into our business
They are surprised, and often “gloomleaders” because they simply don’t understand.
Most of them would be shocked that we even see them that way. They are often (in their own minds) trying to ‘help’.
It’s hard to be supportive of someone when you think they are making a mistake. This is often the way they see it, because they don’t understand it.
Maybe they have tried and failed at network marketing. Maybe they’ve heard the horror stories of other failures. Maybe they’ve just never seen anyone make it.
Really, it doesn’t matter why they are…. less than supportive.
What matters is how you take in their reaction, words, and attitudes.
You have to develop thick skin, or get away from them while you build. If you don’t do one of those, their negativity will get to you, and could have a serious affect on your level of success.
Don’t let someone else determine whether you succeed or not, or how far you will go.
Don’t give them that power over you.
It’s time to recognize your cheerleaders and soak up their encouragement.
Maybe you can find your cheerleaders right there under your roof, maybe you will find them in other friends and family. Maybe you’ll need to find your cheerleaders in other marketers.
When you find your cheerleaders, make sure you are building those relationships. Don’t take them for granted.
Don’t forget to become the cheerleader for someone else as well.
Return the favor. Encourage them. Find out what they are doing and cheer them on.
Building relationships with the right people (not just prospects) can make a huge difference in your success.
If you’re feeling a little down, and needing someone to cheer you on, maybe you need to become a cheerleader first.
Become a cheerleader for others, and you’ll be surprised at how many cheerleaders you’ll soon have cheering you on as well.
Attitude is everything.
- Don’t let someone else determine yours.
- Don’t wait till you have cheerleaders.
- Become someone’s cheerleader.
- Stay away from gloomleaders.
- Keep a positive outlook, even if that means changing who you spend your time with.
“You…posses powers of various sorts which you habitually fail to use; and one of these powers you are probably not using to the fullest extent is your magic ability to praise people and inspire them with a realization of their latent possibilities.
Abilities wither under criticism; they blossom under encouragement. To become a more effective leader of people, apply… Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.” –Dale Carnegie
To Your Success!
Susanna Hess
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Susanna,
Susanna, Susanna, you are bold,
You tell em straight like it should be told,
Don’t let them snicker and don’t let them boo,
Because inside of you is the winner shining through.
Bravo !!!
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hahaha Peter!
Did you write that, or did you borrow it? That’s great either way!
You are one of the people that taught me this lesson, Peter. Thank you! You’re awesome.
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Hey Susanna,
It’s great being a cheerleader for others. Great job with this topic!
Just like you said, “Attitude is everything!” I do take advice from individuals that are willing to help me move my business forward. However, if you are giving me advice to pull me away…Then step back! I stay away from individuals that criticize
Chat with you later…
Josh.
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Hi Josh,
Great way to look at it.
In the past I took it ALL in, and hung my head at the criticism. As if I had been in the wrong. I stopped network marketing completely for about two years.
Then I got sick of it. I wanted more and I knew network marketing would get me there, but I had to change the way I did it. Here I am! lol
All the Best,
Susanna
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Hey Susanna
Great post.
‘Cheering’ first is a great way to network. It shows that your not scared or to stuck-up to put yourself out there.
There are so many Gloom-leaders, nay-sayers, dream stealers out there its hard to avoid them all. When I do come across them I get them to take a look at their life and then look at mine, I get them to realize I am the one out there setting the sail for the winds of opportunity to blow me in the right direction
Putting Value First
Dwayne
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Hey Dwayne,
Yeah, you’re right. And cheering for others can be really fun once you start doing it. I think it’s a great place to start, gets you used to commenting too.
It is hard to avoid them all and I’d love to see your approach in action! I can just imagine.
Sounds like you’ve gotten good at developing that thick skin. Way to go!
Blessings,
Susanna
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Hi Susanna,
I thoroughly enjoyed your post.The topic is motivational, practical and essential learning for those who want to prosper in business. I particularly like your point about becoming a cheerleader first. It is staggering how much comes back to us when we give with an open heart first.
~Marcus Baker~
Attraction Marketing Coach
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Hi Marcus,
I’m glad you liked it.
You’re right, it is staggering how much comes back when we give first.
Thanks for the comment!
Make it a great day
Susanna
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Susanna, you’ve hit the point exactly on the head once again. =) I love it!
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Thanks Cheerleader Rachel! You’ve been my biggest one and I can’t tell you how much you are really appreciated!
You totally rock!
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Susanna, here’s a cheer for you and one for your post. You did a great job here pointing out that encouragement and praise can do to us what sunshine does to nature in springtime.
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Susanna Hess Reply:
April 10th, 2010 at 12:15 pm
Thanks Monika!
It’s amazing how effective it is. What a shame more people don’t do more cheering.
I love your comparison. Ahh sunshine in springtime is just the thing to make it so colorful outside.
Thanks for stopping by!
Susanna
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